The three reasons for domestic abuse in Afghanistan
Religion
Her husband’s parents, who were looking after her son, issued Khadija an ultimatum: If she would tell the police that she lied—that her husband didn’t actually abuse her—and if she returned home, then she could see her son. If she refused, she would never see him again.
It should not be surprising that God declares, in Malachi 2:16, “I hate divorce!” So men and woman alike are raised knowing that once they are married there is no going back, unless you want to be killed or loose your children. If there happens to be one the men always get their way and their children and the women usually get shunned from their village and their family disowns them.
Bohn, Lauren. “Why Afghanistan Is Still the Worst Place to Be a Woman.” Time, Time, 8 Dec. 2018, time.com/5472411/afghanistan-women-justice-war/.
Culture
In October 2015, 19-year-old Rokhsana was stoned to death by Taliban militants in the central province of Ghor after having been accused of having premarital sex.  In November 2015, a 26-year-old Afghan woman died of her injuries after being publicly lashed, also in Ghor. She had been accused of running away from home.  And in August 2016, also in Ghor Province, a young man and woman found guilty of having sex outside marriage were publicly lashed.
In Afghanistan women are never treated as equals to men and it will never change because the way they were raised says that men are superior. Women are being killed each day because men say so and most of these women are less than 30 years old, they have so much more to live for.
Bezhan, Frud, and Frud Bezhan. “Afghan Man Cuts Off Wife's Nose, Lips.” RadioFreeEurope/RadioLiberty, RadioFreeEurope/RadioLiberty, 17 Dec. 2013, www.rferl.org/a/afghanistan-violence-women-mutilation/25204100.html.
Government
Much of the harassment begins in government offices. One woman who turned to the government after exhausting traditional means to separate from her husband said the government lawyers became one of her biggest headaches.  She was being abused by her husband, and she had the physical wounds to show it. At first, the government lawyer assigned to her, a man in his 60s, asked for a bribe. She decided to pay for his phone credit and gas for his car. Then, even after she got her divorce and her husband was sentenced to three years in prison, the lawyer would not stop calling.  “Sometimes, he would call me at 1 a.m. or 3 a.m. and say, ‘You forgot how good I was to you,’” recalled the woman, who spoke on the condition of anonymity because she has since remarried and fears the public stigma that could come from revealing what she went through.  “Other times, he would call and say, ‘The weather is good; let’s go out,’ or he would give me the address of his house and say he had a big house and he was alone.”  The predatory behavior became so overbearing that as soon as her case was settled, she quickly got married again.
The government refuses to do anything to help a woman's situation, they are usually the cause of the problems because men take . abuse of their power and no one can stop them. Every-time a woman tries to become empowered the men are right there to stop her and show her her place in their world.
Nader, Zahra, and Mujib Mashal. “In Afghanistan, 'I Feel Like a Divorced Woman Is Up for Grabs'.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 17 Apr. 2017, www.nytimes.com/2017/04/17/world/asia/afghan-women-divorce.html.